Big Shoes To Fill

Some friends of ours are going through a difficult time. This isn’t the first of the trials they have had to endure, either, so I am starting to feel at a loss in how to encourage them, again and again. I guess I did the right thing in calling tonight- my friend explained how in years past Don (my father-in-law, now in Heaven) would be one they would turn to in hard times to listen and support them. I’m sitting in the same spot as before, when I called Don, and tonight you call.
Hearing this made me feel many feelings at once- surprise, sadness. But mostly inadequacy. I told my friend, those are big shoes to fill.
Don is no longer here. The space he left on this Earth is so vast. I know it is my job to pick up some of where he left off, and continue in the work he started. I’ve got to get as proficient as he was at offering hope.

Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you
to give the reason for the hope that you have…1 Peter 3:15

One Reply to “Big Shoes To Fill”

  1. Dear Joy-bringer,

    You are awesome at it just being you. Remember not to let it overwhelm you since that is certainly not what your friends want you to feel. 🙂

    I have a book with a quote in it that strikes me everytime I read it. She tells a story of her family finally taking a much needed vacation. At the end of their first sweet day, they got a phone call with tragic news. All their joy was drained away,and they arranged their trip home for a funeral. The friend called back to remind them they didn’t have to come home for 4 more days, and “Try to see everything beautiful in front of you and live in that moment.” I don’t know how, but they did it. Hopefully you are better at it than I am. 🙂

    (KEEPING LIFE SIMPLE by Karen Levine)

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