One Thing

I was reading an article in No Greater Joy this week, about balanced and dysfunctional patriarchal families. Michael Pearl’s quoting a mom in this part of it really startled me:

The only evil influence left in the lives of our children is our church.

First, this doesn’t shock me because of its truthfulness; I know only too well what happens when you mix a foolish girl with a church youth group of other foolish teens. The harshness of the statement to me is the fact that even if I am doing my absolute best at filtering and monitoring and chaperoning and supervising, the steps to their destruction need only be the steps into the church building. Of course, this is not intended to be a doom and gloom post about how my children have no hope of success in their spiritual lives, because that would be false. There is always hope, and God has armed us with so many weapons in His word that are at our disposal when temptation comes. Still, I need a place to start- some principle that will encourage not only them but me that we have a fighting chance, even in a innocent on the surface environment like church groups.
What came to my mind was self control. Self control, though evidenced by me intentionally doing what I should and not doing what I shouldn’t, is only perfected by me actually giving the control over to the Holy Spirit, to accomplish His will through me.
Yes, this is the kind of place we can hang out a while; so many other responsibilities and behaviors hinge on a person having this quality mastered. And a parent need not worry about the darts hurled at their children, if they have been teaching them to use their armor.
I can hang my hat on more than just a vain hope my kids don’t make the same mistakes I did. The promises of our Savior give them wings.
Jeremiah 31:3,4
The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying:
I have loved you with an everlasting love;
I have drawn you with loving-kindness.
I will build you up again
and you will be rebuilt, O Virgin Israel.
Again you will take up your tambourines
and go out to dance with the joyful

2 Replies to “One Thing”

  1. This post was just what I needed for the day, thinking about my 12 year old getting ready to go into the youth program at church is a scary thing. I know they are learning the word of the Lord but the other influences in class can be quite a distraction.

    Thanks for this encouragement.

  2. I read it too (thanks to you for telling me about them). 🙂 I have seen this my whole life, but thankfully there are way more good people than bad. All people are human. It’s good to know it. I read a neat thought about how you can tell a lot about the health of a church by watching the youth. Isn’t that so true?! 🙂

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